Weird or suppressed and frustrated

If I had to ask you to imagine yourself as a wise and mature person, how in your minds eye would you look?

Whether we acknowledge it or not, if we are either seriously engaging in our own personal growth and development or helping others, that [unreal and abstract] picture is most often where we are trying to get.

And how accurate or reasonable may that be?

There's a world of difference between trying to mould ourselves into something [which we are not], and becoming the best most empowered expressions of who we are.

In personal development it's a question of knowing ...

what needs to be mastered
what needs to be transcended
what needs to be transformed
what needs to be developed
and what needs to be healed

And ...

personality is mastered and transcended
pathology, past unresolved pain and trauma, often called shadow, is healed
intelligence (and skill) is developed
mindset is transformed and mastered

In doing this we are almost certainly not going to become the idealic image we once imagined. We are though, going to become who we really are. And that person may just not be as well rounded as he ought to be, or as outgoing as you think she should be.

They could end up being fantastically, weird.

And working with weird is different to working with normal, which is just another way of saying, working with suppressed and frustrated.