Most of us see happiness as a consequence of success, which it isn't, and some as a consequence of making a difference, which it isn't.
And living a happy life, being happy, discovering the secret to happiness and well-being doesn't automatically deliver success or the ability to make a difference. It rarely does.
Happiness, success and making a difference are three completely different things, with success in one although possibly providing brief respite or momentary fulfilment, usually coming the cost of the others.
That is not to say we can't create happiness, achieve success and make a difference simultaneously. It means to do them together requires very specific information and very consciously developed strategies and tactics.
Loosing weight makes you thin not happy. Making money makes you rich at our expense, not happy. A successful business makes you a business man, not happy or socially responsible. Mastering happiness makes you neither successful nor socially responsible.
You won't find it in 99% of the self-help or achieve your goals, books. Mostly they are either deliberately or misguidedly appealing to your mistaken idea that achieving one means achieving the other. Not the reality that achieving one usually marginalises the other.
As one of an infinite number of examples and as well meaning as it may be, in today's money narrative your success comes at the expense of your community, our culture and the planet. It doesn't have to be this way, but it is, that's how the system is designed. So if awesome financial wealth and security is your goal, making a difference can't be. And if you never trained yourself to be happy before, you'll definitely be miserable (and angry) after.
The quest for happiness, success and making a difference... a powerful statement of the intent to develop high levels of personal mastery, wisdom and leadership.
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