Your behaviour which is simply your mindset in action, both holds and acts though a logic, and any logic emerges out of an already established assumption or belief, and then works very hard to prove that assumption true.
So you feel you’re working hard to achieve both material and relational success, simultaneously, not one or the other, not one now and then the other later, but both together, now. I need to be clear about this because I’m not so sure you are, I know you think you are, or at least you have an idea that you believe you are, but I’m pretty certain that you’re not.
I’m pretty sure that you’ve already made a very deep, unacknowledged, unrecognised and unconscious decision to pursue either one or the other, in the hope that the other will ‘somehow’ follow in due course, or you’ve reconciled yourself to the fact that they’re mutually irreconcilably and have therefore made your choice, or you’ve come to the decision that the whole thing is bollocks, and you’ve packed you bags and gone to live in the wild, on a diet of wild honey and locusts, in which case you’re probably not reading this.
And we see the consequence of this ‘either or’ logic everyday, in business people who’ve accepted that their quality of life is going to suffer, and consider this an acceptable loss and in spiritual healers and practitioners who’ve accepted that they’re not going to have a financially successful business, and have come to consider this an acceptable loss.
The result of course is business folk who’re all stressed out and falling apart at the seams (and may or may not even have a profitable business) and spiritual folk who’re all shiny, broke and in pain, and all of this only serves to confirm that old adage that if you’re an artist and following your dream, be prepared to live a life a material destitution, and if you pursue a life of material success, be prepared for a life of failed and broken relationships and spiritual destitution.
Now you’re behaviour (feelings, thoughts, words and actions) is simply a flow of logic, and logic always emerges from an already held assumption or belief and then works to prove that assumption correct.
For example, take a position around pro-life or pro-choice and then watch your argument unfold. It’s crazy to think that the logic of your argument is somehow not going to support your original position, and this is exactly how your behaviour works. It doesn’t miraculously appear out of no-where, but emerges out of an already established belief or idea, and then works to create a behavioural argument to prove that original assumption correct.
In this way, if you believe that money is difficult to make, every strategy and tactic you employ will serve primarily to prove the assumption that making money is difficult, regardless of whether you actually make money or not i.e. your behaviour orchestrates it such, that money IS very difficult to make ... sigh the power of mindset.
Or, if you believe that you are of no ‘real’ value, then your behaviour, which is simply your mindset in action, will influence events to prove that you are of no real value, and even if events do conspire to prove you wrong, your mindset simply constructs a clever argument justifying why this is actually not so.
Thus, if your fundamental (unseen and unquestioned) assumption is that you achieve business success and a relational quality of life separately, or in some hierarchical order, or that in achieving one you automatically experience the other (see default program), you have then in that very moment created a REAL distinction, and your flow of logic and behaviour then works very hard to prove that assumption true, which means your success in one automatically precludes success in the other, and certainly precludes success in both simultaneously.
And this is where the ride gets wild, because the tradition mindset, the one you where born into, and the one that currently dominates our global consciousness, and the one you’re using to read and understand this, already holds the assumption that material and relational success are distinct and separate, and therefore everything you do works to prove this assumption correct.
You didn’t have a choice, you inherited this mindset, this assumption, it’s a legacy and unless you’ve intentionally created a new assumptive base, you’re automatically using the traditional one, consider it the default program.
There’s no sitting on the fence, you’ve either deliberately developed a new assumptive base (inherent in the NEW mindset), or you haven’t, and if you haven’t you’re automatically using a mindset that’s irrevocably grounded in the concept of ‘either or’, in which case your behaviour is consistently and relentlessly working to prove the assumption true ...
... nasty.
The NEW mindset with it’s spontaneous flow of behaviour, emerges out of a very carefully, intentionally and deliberately cultivated assumption, that has at it’s core deeply reconciled and transcended the polarity of material and relational success, and which reflects this through new behaviour specifically and skilfully designed to manifest this as a real tangible (material and relational) result.
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